shit ass family

I have a rant. This particular problem is making me miserable and I am damn sick of it.

Background: I have a 33 year old SIL with two kids. She lives a block away from us. Her mom and dad support her (they bought her a nice house, pay bills, etc.). She has a masters degree, so it's not like she really needs their help. She can't even bother to take care of the beautiful home they bought her. Her younger son is a PSYCHO. Seriously if I listed his problems you would say "holy hell." He's going to hurt someone someday, it is almost inevitable. She really gives all of us APers a bad name. The ILs live an hour away from here. MIL drives down here ALL the time to watch her kids b/c she refuses to take responsibility for them. MIL is down here babysitting all week and then the kids usually end up going to her house on the weekend. They don't get a lot of time for watching/spending time with other grandkids because of this. It is really hard to swallow a lot of the time.

My problem: I am due tomorrow. MIL is the one who is supposed to come down and be with DS1 for the birth. We have made it pretty clear we would prefer him to be at our home, for his comfort and reassurance. She agreed that it was the best idea. I just found out that she has all these plans to babysitt for SIL this week. As in tomorrow, all day and night on Thursday, and Friday. I can't help but be pissed off. Can she not for once tell her NO, that she has other obligations? Heaven forbid she does that b/c then SIL throws a damn temper tantrum. We don't want our son over there at her house without us (due to the younger son and some previous problems). We don't really want her kids here since I plan on laboring at home and then going to the hospital. Not to mention the kid is messy, has no respect for our things, and I am just not comfortable having DS around him without DH or I there. There is no way to really get across how crazy the kid is, but as a mother I know it is bad enough that my son will not ever be left alone with him. DH agrees with me on this and is completely on board.

I just don't know what to do now. At some point they are going to have to stop being in denial about the truth, but it isn't my place to open their eyes. The one thing I DO know is that my child will never be put in a position where something bad could happen to him. Am I going to have to get someone else to watch him, or what? I am really upset because if I DO happen to go into labor on one of those days then what will we do with DS? Like having a new baby in the family isn't stressful for him. I will not have him dragged around picking boys up from school, etc. Not to mention, she promised she would bring him to the hospital RIGHT AWAY after the baby comes. I want him to be the first (besides us) to hold his brother. How is she going to bring him if she's carting around the other kids? She is sure as shit not bringing that little spaz to the hospital. I have enough stress/issues in my life, I do not need that. I don't even really want him to visit me in the hospital. I love the kid, but I really can't stand to be around him. It is just too much.

I know it is going to come down to someone having to say something. Maybe not now, but at some point. I hate the idea of that. I know it will be a blowout and can't stand that idea. I wish SIL would just grow the F up and be responsible for herself.

End. of. rant.

blech

Reasons why today isn't the best day I've ever had;

• there is a woodpecker going to town on the wood siding outside, driving me insane! Normally, I like his sounds.. not today!
• For every step forward I take getting our house organized, 3 steps are taken backwards. It is a slippery slope to slobville!
• Why do people keep asking when I am being induced, and then not understand when I say I AM NOT? Or they ask when my c section is, WTF people?! I thought I explained the whole thing to you, BEFORE I even got pregnant?!
• Why does my Siamese cat insist on pooping on the floor in front of my dryer instead of the litter box that is 1.5 feet away? So tired of cleaning poop off the floor!
• People keep calling and instead of a well meaning "how are you?" (which would irritate me, but I could deal with it)... they say "ARE YOU IN LABOR?" The next person that does that will not know anything until this baby is a month old.
• My EDD is not until Tuesday 10/16. I went past the EDD with DS and I am sure I will this time too. Get over it people. I am the one carrying this baby around, NOT YOU! I wish he would come now too, but it just isn't going to happen!
• DH, I am tired of picking up after you. I understand you have a busy work/school/study schedule, but you are NOT two years old!
  

Wow, what a chip I have on my shoulders today! I actually feel a LOT better just putting it down on print though. I am staying in my PJ's all day today and if I don't get any housework done, oh well!!

On a good note, I am so glad we FINALLY have Fall weather around here! I was beginning to think we were skipping the season completely!

freezer food

I bought the distilled white vinegar, baking soda, and some spray bottles. Now I need to figure out what to do with them! I am not sure of the chemistry of the whole thing. I need to search online to find out how to mix them, and store them.

I have 2 weeks until my EDD, and 3 weeks until my DD by my dates. I am SO sick of people asking inappropriate questions! I know it goes with the territory, but geesh! I am also sick of the comments I get when I tell people my plans as far as MY birth go. Either they aren't mainstream enough and I get crap for taking risks, or they aren't crunchy enough and I get crap for that. STOP GIVING ME CRAP! I am doing it my way, the way that is working for MY family. THE END.

We had a housecleaning, finish up some remodeling, and reorganizing marathon this weekend. We got a lot done. There is still enough to do to keep me busy for another week. That is good though, it will keep me from sitting on my birthing ball waiting for labor! ha ha. I have only frozen two lasagnas and some manicotti. We'll be sick of pasta after this baby comes. I did decide to order from our local make and take kitchen. You go in they have all the stuff ready, you prepare your meals and take them home. For postpartum mamas they will assemble them for you, for free. We are getting 7 meals and having them split in half (so 14 really). Since it is the two of us and a 2.5 year old that sustains himself on air and fresh fruit, splitting them is best. The price isn't really bad when you consider everything, it is about $120. I think it will be worth it and cheaper to the alternative which for us would be eating out. I remember those postpartum days with DS1 and I wasn't about to be making supper! I am looking forward to a peaceful babymoon.

I don't know about you, but the weather here is starting to resemble Fall. It is overcast, rainy and chilly! I love Fall, especially those crisp days!