shit ass family

I have a rant. This particular problem is making me miserable and I am damn sick of it.

Background: I have a 33 year old SIL with two kids. She lives a block away from us. Her mom and dad support her (they bought her a nice house, pay bills, etc.). She has a masters degree, so it's not like she really needs their help. She can't even bother to take care of the beautiful home they bought her. Her younger son is a PSYCHO. Seriously if I listed his problems you would say "holy hell." He's going to hurt someone someday, it is almost inevitable. She really gives all of us APers a bad name. The ILs live an hour away from here. MIL drives down here ALL the time to watch her kids b/c she refuses to take responsibility for them. MIL is down here babysitting all week and then the kids usually end up going to her house on the weekend. They don't get a lot of time for watching/spending time with other grandkids because of this. It is really hard to swallow a lot of the time.

My problem: I am due tomorrow. MIL is the one who is supposed to come down and be with DS1 for the birth. We have made it pretty clear we would prefer him to be at our home, for his comfort and reassurance. She agreed that it was the best idea. I just found out that she has all these plans to babysitt for SIL this week. As in tomorrow, all day and night on Thursday, and Friday. I can't help but be pissed off. Can she not for once tell her NO, that she has other obligations? Heaven forbid she does that b/c then SIL throws a damn temper tantrum. We don't want our son over there at her house without us (due to the younger son and some previous problems). We don't really want her kids here since I plan on laboring at home and then going to the hospital. Not to mention the kid is messy, has no respect for our things, and I am just not comfortable having DS around him without DH or I there. There is no way to really get across how crazy the kid is, but as a mother I know it is bad enough that my son will not ever be left alone with him. DH agrees with me on this and is completely on board.

I just don't know what to do now. At some point they are going to have to stop being in denial about the truth, but it isn't my place to open their eyes. The one thing I DO know is that my child will never be put in a position where something bad could happen to him. Am I going to have to get someone else to watch him, or what? I am really upset because if I DO happen to go into labor on one of those days then what will we do with DS? Like having a new baby in the family isn't stressful for him. I will not have him dragged around picking boys up from school, etc. Not to mention, she promised she would bring him to the hospital RIGHT AWAY after the baby comes. I want him to be the first (besides us) to hold his brother. How is she going to bring him if she's carting around the other kids? She is sure as shit not bringing that little spaz to the hospital. I have enough stress/issues in my life, I do not need that. I don't even really want him to visit me in the hospital. I love the kid, but I really can't stand to be around him. It is just too much.

I know it is going to come down to someone having to say something. Maybe not now, but at some point. I hate the idea of that. I know it will be a blowout and can't stand that idea. I wish SIL would just grow the F up and be responsible for herself.

End. of. rant.